My Mother Has Alzheimers and I Think That She Should Be Put Into a Nursing Home but Out of 7 Kids I Am The?
Sunday, August 15th, 2010 at
5:54 am
lazy010302 asked:
only one that feels this strongly about it. She can’t walk she wears depends and used them all the time. My dad doesn’t need the care as much as she does but he is needy. I am getting so burnt out taking care of both of them. If she was in a nursing home then everybody could go visit her as they wanted and enjoy their visit. But they think that if she goes into a nursing home she is going to die immediately. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
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If you are the one that is taking care of your mother 100% and perhaps even of your father — no wonder none of the others feel the need for a nursing home!
Let them take turns taking care, then their tune may change and quickly so. Everybody dies – there is no reason to feel guilty.
Perhaps people die there more quickly — my mother in law was taken care of, a living vegetable, by my wife until she died. Diaper changes, spoon feeding, hand washing, changing of position many times a day — what stupidity and totally exhausting labor. 10 years wasted.
I guess it satisfied my wife’s needs to do this — stuuupid is too kind a word — insanity is more like it.
Alzheimer’s is a devastating disease which seems to be harder on the family than the patient themselves. There are many different points to consider when thinking of placing a loved one in an assisted living facility. One of the first things to consider is your mom’s safety – is she safe staying where she is now? What about the possibility of her waking up in the middle of the night and leaving the house…this is not uncommon in those with Alzheimer’s. There are also different options instead of just a “nursing home”. Assisted living facilities allow your mom (and possibly dad if interested) to stay together in an “apartment” and able to carry on with their daily lives, just in a new “protected” (for lack of a better word) place. Nurses are there to help if needed.
I can definitely see why your family may think that she is going to die immediately in a nursing home. Nursing homes are places that our elders seem to go when they can no longer care for themselves so most do eventually pass on there. However, good nursing care may allow your mom an even longer life, and more satisfying, than she may have at home. It would also take worries off your family. Be sure to do some research on available nursing facilities and ask for current patient’s family feedback, as well as the patients who already reside there.
I’m not sure if I’ve really answered your question…just a little background info from experiences I have been involved in with families. A family meeting is also a good idea with a social worker or case manager who may be able to help answer some questions.
Hi..my mom had Alzheimer’s. It is really a terrible illness. a friend described it as the worst one..when you loose your mind you have lost everything. It is okay to think that a nursing home will help. and it will.
You are not in control of her living. only god knows that…when it is her turn then she will go.. nursing home do provide a place where people are
are around you. It doesn’t mean that she will be without issues but will be a safe place for someone in this condition
well my mother has alzheimers she crys alot but we try to deal with it. it is very hard to see our parents go through this and i told my sister we are going t ohave to do something different for mom..we lost our dad two years ago. and it has been hard on us all .i know what you are going through.
You said your tired, aren’t your other siblings helping take care of your parents.
It seems like your the only one taking care of your parents.
If your’re not you cant be so tire,
You should put then in a nursing home, because no one else is helping you.
Don’t feel bad, especially if you’re the only being responsible for your parents.
No , you sound realistic, i think finding the right care for them is imperative, and something you should just do….. for everyones sake….
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